What a wreck this week has been. We've had some nice moments but oh my god, the evil and I feel partly responsible and um evil.
For over a week now Kalila has been in ultimate fighting championship whinge mode.You really have no idea how much she was unhappy and upset. I put it down to teeth. She even said her mouth hurts a few times although she stated saying this after I asked her if her mouth hurt. I didn't twig. Skip along some laborious days where six o'clock couldn't come soon enough and the moaning continued off and on. She had some medicine and would seem happier. Easy. It's teeth. We just ride it out. I did what I knew for teething pain. Then something else happened. She stopped weeing like a normal person. She said she needed a wee. We took her to the toilet and she screamed that she didn't need one. Confused. I thought maybe she had a strong bladder or was too busy playing, stubborn, still learning etc etc. I kept dishing out excuse after excuse in my head. Then today, I lost my temper. Big style. Kalila said she needed a wee and when I put her on the potty she screamed that she didn't need one. I knew better as she was dancing around and shaking her legs about. She weed on herself only inches from the toilet. I called Nik and left some choice voicemails about how I didn't know what the hell to do. I made her help me clean up the wee, which she did more than willingly because she actually is such a sweet little helpful child. I was the naughty one. I knew she normally used the potty with no problem. I couldn't understand and this left me ill at ease. I'm usually happy with my mothering skills and it's the role I feel I am meant to do. It just fits. I feel quite strongly about this but I guess everyone has days when they suck at their job or hobby or whatever. I'm just pissed off at myself that it took me so long to figure out the real problem. Kalila had one wee at 9am and by 5m she had her second one. This is far far far too long. She had been drinking fluids, not much but I finally got the message when she screamed and cried while having a wee. I asked her if her wee hurt and she tearily replied yes and I asked her to point where it hurt. Yep, Urinary Tract Infection. It all finally made sense and I couldn't fucking believe how blind I had been. It has happened to friends of mine before and I should have known but what's done is done and she now has antibiotics and overpriced lazytown water to encourage her to drink more fluids. When I came back from picking up her medicine, she didn't want Nik to put her to bed as per her usual night routine. Despite my horrible mothering skills this week and especially today, she asked me to put her to bed. In fact she demanded it. "I want you to put me to bed mummy. YOU." I stayed in her bed after we read stories and she cuddled and nuzzled my face, kissed my glasses on each lense, and said I was funny. I think she has forgiven me and now I'd just like to take this hard learned lesson and file it away in the drawer marked "things to remember for child related issues". Other items in that drawer include:
Do not let children put peas up their noses.
Do not let your husband leave a glass of cointreau by the bed. It looks like water to children.
It's a damn good thing we have unky Si's birthday tomorrow and another apple festival. I need to unwind.
Friday, October 17, 2008
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Oh poor Kalila! UTIs suck. They suck donkey balls. I remember well the long hours sitting on the potty aching for a wee yet afraid to go, so I really feel for her! In the US, they have special red tablets (Uristat is a brand, there are others) which help to numb the owies in the urethra, do they have something like that approved for kids in the UK? They didn't have such things when I was little, but as an adult, they have been a lifesaver.
I know this sounds sadistic, but I'd recommend no chocolate or anything with caffeine, or strong spices. Those things serve to make the bladder even more spastic and owie.
Hugs and kisses to the brave miss Kalila Boo!
On a completely separate note, we're going to an apple orchard tomorrow, and I hope to hades there's actually apples there. It's been a crap year for them in the US.
Poor thing. It's not pleasant for us adults, and we know exactly what's going on.
Do't beat yourself up for not recognising straight off - when kids play up its easy to attribute it to them just playing up and in most cases that's true. I'd never have guessed UTI either.
Owee! She has my hugs and condolences, for UTIs are the devils work. HOWEVER they apparently put magic juice in them antibiotics because mostly they work SUPER SUPER quick and so she will be better soon and you will be all forgiven and super mummy again. Not that you weren't super mummy before, just struggling with an unknown set of parameters.
So clear with hind sight, but as Vic says, so easy to put down to toddlerish-ness and misbehaviour at the time. At least you DID spot it, think how much worse it would have felt if you'd ended up at the doctors or hospital (you'd probably have had a lightbulb moment as you were relating her history to the doctor too, and then you'd have had feeling like a bad mother to add into the mix).
Lovely mummy, lovely daughter. May the week end better than it has begun.
Also, Tazja, as a semi-regular uti sufferer (Maybe once a year- too often, anyway) SEND ME THOSE RED THINGS!!! I don't know of them in the UK at all.
oh dear, that must have hurt her.. but you've done well. it would have taken me longer than that to realise what the problem was!
been having sleepless nights too on my side. high temp at night = constant compress. calpol only helped a bit. she's getting better now, i think. fever is under control.
UTI - does it give her fever too?
PS: have no idea where to get alien costume from! any idea?
Monica- uti's have made me feverish in the past, so yes, it's possible.
Monica - if you're in the UK (or anywhere where it is "free" to see a doctor) then it won't do any harm to have it checked out - suspected UTI is usually checked out pretty quickly (and easily - if you count getting a urine sample from a little one as being easy).
By the way, you can usually smell it if it is a UTI (unless you've already lost your sense of smell like me - it comes back every few weeks only to run away again in a fit of horror...)
Sorry to hear your news but it has made me feel heaps better as a mummy as I went through the exact same thing with Grace whereby I was a horrid mummy too and then found out it was a uti. Don't worry hon we all love you just the same. Love Lucie xx PS - Just when can we manage to schedule a play date???!!
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